Session 12: After the Storm
Afterwards. Â After the harsh words have been exchanged, hurtful comments made and barbs thrown (often from both sides, but maybe not). Â Now what?
If you’re wise, you’ll reflect.
Of course, if you had stopped to reflect earlier…Â
In conflict, there are generally 4 points to consider beyond the actual conflict:
Antecedent, analysis, reaction, and consequence
Let’s unpack what happened, and while we do, notice all the “stopping points” along the way where you missed an opportunity for things to unfold differently… and better.
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Antecedent:
What happened leading up to the conflict?
Were there minor annoyances that should have been addressed that were instead swept under the carpet until everything coalesced into a fiasco?
Analysis:
What was each parties perception of what happened?
Each party usually thinks they are right. Could you have found middle ground before the argument escalated?
Reaction:
How did each party respond?
Do you wish you had responded differently? Â Can you use that regret as a starting point to re-engage in civil and productive conversation to resolve the conflict?
Consequence:Â
What was the outcome? Is the outcome something both parties wanted and are satisfied with?
